Bullies to Buddies:
Check out the website:
www.bullies2buddies.com
and these GREAT READS!!!
How to Handle Bullies, Teasers and Other Meanies
by Kate Cohen-Posey, Rainbow Books
Cliques,Phonies and Other Baloney by Trevor Romain; Free Spirit Publishing
Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain by Trevor Romain; Free Spirit Publishing
Relational Aggression: Girls Bullying Girls.
It can start with young girls through exclusion or coercion (ex: I won't be your friend if you're friends with so-and-so) and as girls get older relational aggression can take other forms that differ from the way boys bully.
The internet has become a new tool for bullying peers outside of school. Girls can use instant messaging, blogging, online diaries, etc. to bully their peers. Take at look at these links for information and help on what to do to protect your children.
http://www.opheliaproject.org/main/ra_faq.htm
http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/index.asp?area=main
http://www.safekids.com
GOOD READS:
Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence
by Rosalind Wiseman
Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying
by Cheryl Dellasega, PhD.
Remember the Tribes Agreements:
1. Put Ups/ No Put Downs
2. Attentive Listening
3. Mutual Respect
4. The Right to Pass/The Right to Participate
CHECK OUT THESE WEBSITES AND BOOKS:
Magic 1-2-3: Managing Difficult Behavior in Children 2-12;
Child Management, Inc.,Video and Handbook for Parents
http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_families/children_and_divorce
http://kidshealth.org/
How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Groups offered at Eli Terry:
Changing Families=divorce and separation
Grief and Loss=death of a family member or pet
Self-Control Patrol=frustration tolerance and relaxation techniques
Learning Differences=you just learn in a different way than other kids
Lunch Bunch=small lunch setting to build socialization skills and self-esteem
Social Skills=children with IEPs learn how to interact better with peers. Topics include: manners, reciprocating conversation, telephone skills, eye contact, listening, teamwork, feelings identification, "I"- messages. Group includes mainstream peers as role models for appropriate behavior. Facilitated by Social Worker, Speech/Language Therapist and 2 Special Ed. teachers.
Peer Mediation= Eight 5th graders are trained in conflict resolution to help students from 3rd-5th grade solve their own problems through talking, listening, stating feelings, and thinking up their own solutions. Facilitated by the social worker or one of two 5th grade teachers.
Other social/behavioral supports offered: Conflict resolution skills; Problem Solving skills ; Parenting resources; Character Education.
BIO
Jennifer Hoffman, MSW, LCSW
This is my seventh year at Eli Terry. I am also a Licensed Clinical Social Worker providing therapy for children and adolescents in private practice in Hartford.
Previously, I worked in the Hartford Public Schools District with children in K-5 labeled with Serious Emotional Disturbance (SED). This is a therapeutic school in the North End which utilizes character education and behavior modification to work with children in Special Education. My other experience includes field work at the Connecticut Children's Medical Center (CCMC) where I provided outpatient services to parents and children in both the Diabetes and Craniofacial clinics. I also provided inpatient services on the medical-surgical units primarily working with families of oxygen-dependent infants from the Pediatric Intensive Care Unit.
I was also a social work intern at Bulkeley High School in Hartford working with students in grades 9-12 Special Education.
My primary philosophy for providing support to your child is the same no matter where I have provided those services: You are the expert on your child. As the parent of a teenager myself, I understand the struggles of raising children first-hand. I am here to provide objective feedback; help you work with the administration; provide you with resources and referrals; and, help your children attend to whatever may be impeding their ability to develop academically. I value your input and look forward to working with you this year.
